Guilt, shame, and embarrassment can leave you wanting to keep the peace, prove your worth, avoid judgment, or just make the whole thing stop. In a divorce, those feelings can quietly shape major financial choices—sometimes before you’ve had a chance to understand what those choices may mean for your future.

In this conversation, Debora and I talk honestly about the emotions I lived through and how they affected me. We also discuss why it matters to recognize what you’re feeling before making decisions about your home, support, retirement, or settlement.

You don’t have to have it all figured out. But you deserve to make these decisions with clear information and support—not shame calling the shots.